Child withdrawal

How already mentioned I would like to concern myself far with the topic child withdrawal and to be regenerated exact as possible, because again and again cases become or tell shown out, it becomes a reformation or dissolution of the youth welfare office demanded, court orders etc. exist.
I would like first once personal reports to collect as well as the opinion of the concerning so far that am emotional possible represent, which to exact career/development to such an child extraction without hearing often it goes to the mother then would like I the institution youth welfare office more exactly to regard, their tasks, who arranges this office and who has the supervision, because except child extraction also different tasks become perception as e.g. in the name of the mother maintenance for the children of the father to draw in or kindergarten places organize or daily mothers or money for kindergarden, etc.. Then I would like to collect court orders from where also always, I must only experiences also there gain. In things child withdrawal I made and could experiences my children with much trouble keep. In addition however in another post office, my children are now of age and it let now better more objectively over it be investigated and analyzed.
The training of the social paedagogues and/or the youth welfare offices must be lit up likewise exactly, surely also a criterion for wrong decisions.
Then, as the individual resolutions of the courts look to child extraction. The resolutions must state detailed data for their remarks. How do these look?
Which means the term: To the well-being of the child? Is there a generally accepted definition? Is a subjective decision of whom and for whom?
As the composition of the mothers from those sees the child is, from who social layers they come, as look the education conditions, mentality, stress factor, occupations and environmental factor, are as strong prejudices minted.
In as far the problems from the life developed, how many from the outside made?
One sees, it is a far field, which I can write naturally not at one time, but for each topic or two seperate posts I will write and will investigate before. Little time needs.
In addition still another view goes to Europe, the USA, Israel and other countries throw like it with its children look.

To begin I would like with personal reports and who would like to write its experiences can it in the comment anonymous is published or the above-mentioned email address to send. Please write your opinion in addition and whether you back-get your children again.

When buying I did think of the problem after, continue to be two parts not a connection have. On the one hand the youth welfare office specialists, who no more d know when it to intervene are and when not and on the other hand the mother or parents those not to know how to resist to be supposed itself, and if one see the other side to know like them a neglect or an abusing of their child to protect be supposed.
It would be well beside an anonymous child flap also an anonymous parents/mother flap to furnish where made excessive demands of and over-be frightened mothers to turn itself can without fear have had directly their children to lose. An emergency troop should assist then in acute times day and night of the mother to the stress spades helps more be sometimes an existence around the mother the stress to take and it again area sees where the family a chance has I thinks of older humans those help could, or evenly a group explains itself honorary ready for such cases, so that simply the worst above all a child withdrawal can be prevented . The same during threatening safe-keeping draw of the dwelling, often helps a simply action and the problem is eliminated. There is simple measures however exactly that is the point, with children and psychological stress and fear.
To prevent mother for a child withdrawal with unjustified reasons, that is very important.
With threatening child withdrawal already from many an independent commission recommended those the overtaxed youth welfare office the decision decreases and with parents together confers.

In this case I will excuse my bad English. I will improve it, really.

Calltec

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Wednesday, 29 August 2007
Enterprise

I children looked to have so long so long we Enterprise, took part in played, bought maps, books, figures, stickers, postcards and my children star Trek of tournaments.
Began actually with me still at home. I sat in the advanced jugendalter with my nut/mother on the sofa and we looked at myself the star Trek together classic and schwaermten naturally from James T. Kirk, who all this together-struck Kaepten and kissed all women. We found it simply mad. At the time at that time beside the spaceship the Orion was simply sensationally with the Klingonen and the federation and Russian and Amerikaner and a afroamerikanische Funkerin together on a spaceship in the middle in the cold war, much recovery SAM. I took this enthusiasm also into my bachelor life and then as I mean first son got regarded I with him, a baby on the arm, the star Trek classic and that him and to be 2 brothers and sisters enormously coined/shaped. We looked at these series again and again and again. My children did not become larger and Rauschiff Voyer and Deep space Nine wobbled in and our enthusiasm knew borders. As my children at the dte rodent age were came the star Trek collect and play maps out and the young people met in the star Trekladen and played Tuniere and organized even believes I country widely. I white until today as one does not play however it has much with strategy to do and depending upon which set one has was one in the advantage. My children have hundreds of these maps of all series with all scenes and pictures and figures. These are naturally carefully guarded. The Klingonen fascinated my children particularly, above all the outside change that tacitly carried out itself and naturally the internal change before with blutruenstigen Kaempfen.Mr. Worf said once: it is a good day too die only does not copy, thought I. Mr. Spock always says: Live long in peace.
Enterprise, NEXT generation, was developed already somewhat more diffisiler, philosophical directives played a vital role, humans, the peace and the other one was important, the understanding for other cultures and worlds, which came Romulaner and the Ferengis, which potthaesslich I found ueberigens and many other cultures still also. The Vukanier was already in classic represented by Mr. Spock. Mr. Spock famous for its Logig and its pointed ears, a Vulkanier evenly that hardly feelings knew however with the Logig each problem solved. Mr. DATA was then into the NEXT Generation.Wir, the entire Famile was very inspired by these figures and discussed also gladly the philosophical problems. Whether Logig can replace also feelings, whether the highest directive was really better into other cultures to never interfere, for example with the own knowledge or progress whether a Android can be recognized such as Mr. DATA nevertheless also as humans it a member of the crew is there and also in the Enterpriseleben its role fulfilled. Or if a hologram is aware of its that it is a hologram, has it requirement on it further to live or can it be simply switched off. We had thus always sufficient discussion material in this direction.
The Captain in NEXT Genaeration was also not as a Draufgaenger as Kirk, had few affairs with women and is occupied rather more with its ship and his crew and acted more prudently. One can say however that all Kaptains of the Enterprise was married with their ships in basictaken only and so as models for loyalty and stood for loyalty, surely also American coined/shaped.
Me pleased in Voyer Mr. Neelix particularly well, my children were impressed from Mr Odo in Deep space Nine, which formwandler can transform into everything.
All series and all consequences we saw, it gave which which we found completely mad like the Gremlins, are nearly clear, I liked this time gate of,es were so mysteriously, anyway the space-time distortion with all their possibilities, simply outstanding made and think-worth.
Altogether all figures on us left a large impression and one could them also identify as such and could do them with their characteristics and habits. Naturally problematic if then my son said, plays schau times Mr. Sock also in this film, or here you can see also to Kirk, or schau times there is Mr. Riker.Das is after 25 years to hardly avoid, even if they play in other films, it remains evenly Enterprise. We were not also very sad that Scotty and pill went from us, one would like that so quite to understand, because they were to be always seen and still are.
The star Trek of motion picture films we saw all on video and partly in the cinema. The Borgs not forgotten thereby also and more than once heard one it: Resistance is useless, it is assimilated. My children repeated the saying very gladly and it were received also into the star Trek history. The films showed very in detail the figures in their roles, prepared a topic, like the rescue of the earth, or the first contact with extraterrestial ones, very well. The first Worpantrieb, which g-tt first contact with the Romulanern, genesis, a erschaffung of the world in shortest time, revival of Mr. Spock, for search, were all topics those fundamentally and to large part intelligently and had been compiled are intelligent.
We are also today still star Trek trailer, only sometimes the time is missing the films to always look at and one became older. The letze series with the completely new Kaptain and before classic the Enterprise only my sons looked at, I had for it no more time.
The Enterprise coined/shaped my children, as exactly I cannot say, but it an identification possibility and the chance offer with continuous important topics to argue and simply also fun have, to fun without danger and criminality. I find it important nevertheless the fact that accompany parents or parents the child and also looks at and also into star Treklaeden goes and with its Kinder(ern)darueber converses and discussed. That is good a fine thing and for the children.
I look forward to enkelkinder, we on case of each star Trek will already see.

Calltec

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Wednesday, 15 August 2007
Early warning system for children without fathers

Report to read under:
Early warning system for children without fathers
Umweltjournal.de | Family and children | Article No.: 12635 Michael boots

Around it directly in front to say the children of however-educating do not only need an early warning system.
Berlin, bill 12.07.2007: It concerns that the scope for discretion goes from youth welfare offices strongly increased ist.Es around child damage in the a nut/mother family, during father connection lacking is rather the readiness of the fathers about the new generation to worry. Apparently the fathers as rather suitably seen to substitute if the nut/mother is overtaxed.
Which is seen as excessive demand, becomes here do not bespochen, but it aims clearly at the alone-educating role with its indispositions, the however-educating is located in the center of possible child damages, is thus praedistiniert for it.

Parents autonomy in kind 6 GG. Without family-judicial control such interferences would out-lever otherwise the parents right completely and in the discretion of partly unsatisfactorily trained authority coworkers would place.

My opinion refers to contents of the article.
The word excessive demand is used gladly with however-educating, but which nut/mother is not overtaxed? Household, occupation, children, school, homework and occupation are multiple Tasking tasks depending upon ability to be settled. But with the excessive demand one does not confess to the nut/mother a success of its tasks to which however only to a small subrange applies. If one suggests it however the fact that she is overtaxed and unable, which is meant also with it believes it it also and the father could prove, not even keeps now the task of everything to that to make better to be able than the nut/mother. Is correct in addition?
And also does a damage of the child accompany with an excessive demand? And if the child is damaged, or, is that is abused an indication of Ueberfoderung of the nut/mother? Or nevertheless rather a damaged psyche, or disturbed relationship with the child?
And particularly it occur in a nut/mother families does that one must treat that separately? Fathers the long from nut/mother and child are not separate already have a routine in child education or family, must again orient themselves and have large difficulties thereby.
If youth welfare offices coworkers send also before-calm opinions over however-educating into a family and this corresponds to the conceptions not completely comes it very fast to the result of an excessive demand, the father may again the familiar guide roller take over and the nut/mother, I white not which with it passes. Terapien or cures or otherwise possibly something.
Didn't any party want a close network to twist with offices, schools, labour office and youth welfare office and office for citizen and then over the mothers to throw?
The question arises again and again. What arranges to entreissen a society as frequently children from the families and/or the mothers and as comes it the fact that a society fails in such a way that so many will apparently entrissen must?

Calltec

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Thursday, 9 August 2007
Social welfare assistance and money

The old problem with the money. How does one spend as few as possible on as much as possible? Each woman has so their Geheimtipps and nearly all to buy with Aldi, penny or Lidl in. The assortment is also mostly the same because one the prices and knows the place. All the same over which food it acts, always is it the cheapest although we had already stated that an expensive does not taste however straight unbedint better with cleaning agent less needs and keeps longer. But the feeling more moneys to spend nevertheless on something which one than unimportantly recognized, is often uncomfortably. The money is mostly spent on food and clothes and on rolls. Hie are extremely favorable the bread prices and rolls and cakes so that each day be eaten can and thus no more luxury property represents.
I have often the habit had for a whole week to buy which was however wrongly divided, because we did not eat each day noodles or rice, not only sausage or cheese, but still the fish was added there and the fruit and the milk. Everything which one reduce could not which one however only makes if it any longer differently goes, then we can get along with noodles and tomato Marks and with butter bread, and a banana hands finally also. Chocolate costs only 45 cent or still less, which one has still in the drawer to sometimes lie, thus chocolate is also no more luxury property.
As my children looked our economic situation was small differently. There were quite days in which we hardly something to eat had and much dringed for the money waited, there was at food nothing more there, not even more bread. If any longer were not could I mean parents to call us then helped. I have only made if it any longer did not continue and the children already hunger had and without breakfast into the school went and also no lunch got, then my parents helped out. That were already moments in which I swore myself that we will always have to eat something, it were however also few moments and we are also not verhungert.
It pulls important factors at the nerves and river and gas is endangered and at most, because in the money going calculations accumulate themselves up correctly in any case and it is hardly hope available that one can pay these, let alone becomes free from debt. But to this condition one accustomed and in the life with eingebaut.Es is also strange the fact that with some the money remains and itself increased and is hardly it with me it again dissolves there and I always with zero is. Perhaps lies also in the fate of each particular. With this keyword I must tell like I that first times money with map putting earned. We were again without money and food, things already in the flea market had been sold and I considered which one still make can. I announced a classified advertisement with offer map putting. I had not put already often privately and success had however so publicly to the money making yet. I hate do essentially luck and a woman came, was content and I earned my first 50 DM with own achievement. I made one while and had some regular customers and I could so the family nourish. The people were very content and with the time accustomed I to it for it Gelld to take itself. One map-puts colleague called me, I am for her map putting, because she expects a win in Lotto. I had to answer this in the negative and her was very disappointed however nevertheless safe that am correct. Well, also kartenlegerinnen do not have so their dreams and for itself can one no map putting, functioned. Today I do not make the no more for religious reasons, but it is not bad business the map putting.
Otherwise I could earn still in a Gastaette in addition and helped in the kitchen, with the advantage that I could carry meals and cakes forward home. There the work was arduously however especially money and to eat was, everything importantly at that time for my children, found that mad.
Jobs with food are anyway nearly already more dickmacher, because than I had worked in the food trade, we could mitnehemen commodity run off, which would be otherwise thrown away. In this time I have enormous amounts at yogurt and cheese, coffee even sausage with taken taken I increased really precariously. If one in fleischereien all day works mostly receives one a free lunch and may from the lunch something get itself. A giant advantage and we naturally very hungry were we any more were not pleased everything.
The meal was the center of attention although we not so much hungerten or such a thing however the largest part of the money became in food converted and over the month divided, for other material goods was no money available, one had itself over it no thoughts to make, alsol remained the meal. Today, with an adult son in the household one does not have to economize well however to food is any more hauptproblem, at least not in this Stadttteil in which we to live, here is the cost of living extrtem low. Money however for larger expenditures like e.g. larger pieces of furniture one could not not yet and the debts yet be paid off, thus in the comparison to the Federal citizen average applies we surely immern still than poor.
With social welfare assistance it is with difficulty up to the end of the month to come through with small children, it particularly lives at the forces. One is not dependent necessarily on luxury, one white however like others lives and white also the fact that the quality of life is not only idealistic but also materially abhaemgig and that children affects. With family loads the children learn to be able social authority on their school or career intentions to concentrate however not completely, it exist themselves hardly networks or relations because parents not in work be located and not with Mr. X in company Y to call to be able, times ne training place haste freely or a job or a practical course.
Social welfare assistance does not mean little money, much owing and with high probability with progressive age a chance for release. One must have the courage completely again begin to die and on the left and on the right everything fall let risk.

Calltec

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Wednesday, 8 August 2007
Sozialaemter

I want to report not very much negative have I nevertheless very often of this institution lived to my disappointment. Here I would like to say to all young people the fact that they should absolutely try independently from social welfare assistance to to live and everything at work to rather assume which them in such a way over the way runs or which leaves place of residence differently to work over somewhere or training make. My experiences are these that if once begun one back-slips again and again, for different reasons also for these reasons that one becomes acquainted with humans from this situation those not to accept does not want the fact that one would like to change its own situation and to try with fadenscheinigen excuses to block, often is it also under-conscious procedures, often in addition, job market caused causes. It is to be separated extremely heavily from social welfare assistance to and one should as well as possible try this assistance to never occur, if it goes somehow. Me the reasons are not only too good well-known and a nut/mother with small children can now times not work make them already at home enough, humans a work to find, ill humans, frustierte humans. In addition, as many young humans.
Before 20 years I was for the first time with the sozialamt, the house where one money get can. I had before at all no notion of it, my parents always lived from work and everything else was evenly welfare service of cases which we helped however otherwise nothing to do had. My parents were not war children and had always fear of life, it gave also damsls child benefit and not this social welfare assistance like today. Who did not work stood on the road and lived on welfare service, was called also in an emergency in put down Eisenbahnwagons. I still saw or in aermlichen social accommodations. My parents i.e. at the beginning of my father and was by the war accustomed with to be gotten along, still little today has he had to work the habit dry bread with a piece of sausage to sometimes eat, from habit. Out to search or something was luxury learns itself work. Already fueh it that my nut/mother cooperates, wanted the money would also otherwise not have been enough, it found however anyway that the woman must cooperate also for the family. My nut/mother meant, he had been a communist, today he as a left one had been surely designated, but in truth he is for over 60 years in the SPD. It participated also as itself first directly after the war in the Esperanto regained. Strange to say zienmlich right after disliked humans from different countries together-did to the war and organized Camps. Thus my parents did not have from niergendwo money harsh-come and did not know also social welfare assistance, the consideration or security that one could live also without work, gave it simply. The fear of life of my parents accompanied me, since I however well was, i.e. that I did not know a fear around dwelling and work took I that always today know I the social welfare assistance scene of 4 cities. In former times the corridors were long and dark and dirtily. Hundreds of humans collected themselves there always, all full smoke and stickig, who were few wood banks occupied and one stood and waited, children, babies, old person, boy, homeless person etc.. One waited to one at the row was and if one did not only have pitch were the specialist unfriendly but had equal the last renting payment verschlampt or dispatched one simply and regarded one from above down. Women are very skillfully if them from the social editor something to have would like. At that time still possible, today comes it was directly into the dwelling and looks after whether one something really needs, also into the cabinets looked and each area examine-understandably already in addition, entwuerdigend, one feels as property of the state, perhaps is one also, because it also legally the assistance receiver exists the right to control in such a way in its private sectors, is available it the state nearly unhindered thus somehow. A problem is it in any case once the achievements of the state to receive straight for a human being-worthy life of which in the Basic Law is embodied which in addition, not the reality corresponds and then however again the right of the state on private control which the human being-worthy life opposes, from the unfriendly and goennerischen treatment by specialists completely apart.
At that time a woman brought a cushion also, from her child versifft, and held it for the specialist before the nose. There they smell times, I need an in any case new cushion. Another meant with blip that voice, I white not how much color I for the dwelling need, but they can measure certainly best and smiled soul-calmly. I am safe, her from compassion a higher amount paid off got, because Sozilahilfeempfaenger can count very well and know where them the cheapest color to get very exactly to be able. To financial matters in a later block. A specialist has mostly no notion of it. Once I had to have the luck a specialist from the left probably autonomous scene, normally am I no friend of it, generously got I nearly the whole household in monetary value already soon offered, her wiess me
whereupon which I would have to still need. It came out a beautiful sum, which I also actually got and which we could need also for all kinds of beautiful things, micht absolutely only for the household. Another woman, who had to start really also from the beginning and nothing had, did not even receive a washing machine with the reason, it, the specialist for her three children also with nothing to begin would have had.
The money of the state stands for one too if one really nothing has and up to now have I always the experience made that one also actually gets money and on it a little live can. I got 150 DM that with my three children per week am today 75 euro. Now I receive alone for me alone per week 60 euro, that am approx.. 120 DM, an increase around nearly 50 %.
The older the children become the more simply are it. With small children one hardly comes through, the needs is higher, the meals must differently be prepared and the school cost itself properly much money and the dress sizes to change constantly. The costs are higher and there with small children had we at the end of the month nothing more and waited always sehnlichst the next money off. Today however the subsidies with the Hartz4 rose. A condition that was nerve-racking and with the human being-worthy life to agree is not. One saves and turns and turns and it does not hand nevertheless not, one waits for the next money, also this is enough not, mostly is like that, if money is that then all fall themselves on the meal purchase, buys z.T indiscriminately around the lack of purchase of the last 2 weeks again to make, gets everything there in 2 to 3 days after around then again into the lack of purchase to drop back and on next money day wait. I had to divide tried and have that also during good organization the money is not enough nearly and one can use still considered like one still more efficiently the money, one become determined proper creatively, also my oldest son considered myself, before 20 years was that, how he could spend 1 DM most effectively. He was allowed to buy for 1DM an ice, came back with an ice, a role of drops and a chocolate latch plate, everything for DM, he was very proud on this increase. A little one would like to have stop of the life, thus for bathing we drove and ice we always always ate, for it with roasting potatoes and Spagettie too however often brought and little meat and always the cheapest sausage. At that time we had dress money a little spent on dresses otherwise for toys. My today still another whole crate with Legos, Playmobile and railway has sons. Each quantity star Trek play maps and then the Transformer and other figures. Everything was expensive and from the dress money at that time was financed, but my children were not so well dressed which back problems with itself brought. A woman with 7 children attracted her children always tip top, nobody should see that their children are poor and come from a child-rich family, actually also reasonably. We already went to toys to the red cross to the expenditure for play and us give free of charge to have let. Completely at the beginning one got even flour and butter given, the EEC had an enormous butter mountain, which the social receivers should abfuttern.
I thought always that I, if the children are large, will find out out this social case and independently live can without this fault of dependent and asking plates. The law says something else however to feel and feels does one something else. I know the difference if one work and if one is unemployed, if one is unmarried, if one is together with a Partener, if one is alone with children, wennn one in the university works, whom<<<<<<<< snip >>>>>>>>